Friday, April 18, 2008

Upside to temper tantrums

Aggression is part of growing up and should not always be considered negative, says the Professional Association of Paediatricians in Munich.

Temper tantrums help children learn self-determination and test their boundaries.

“It’s important for children to learn how to manage this without hurting anyone or damaging property,” says Thomas Fendel, a paediatrician.

At first, children can only express their rage physically, by grabbing a toy from another child, for example, “It’s only when they turn three years that they realize there are other options such as verbal attacks,” says Fendel.

Parents should tolerate a certain degree of anger. They can show understanding when a child is angry about losing a toy. But they should help the child develop strategies for conflict management.

In extreme circumstances when a child feels neglected, aggression can be an expression of the child’s feeling of helplessness, according to the association.

Yet, it could also be an indicator of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder.

If months go by and a child regularly resorts to physical or verbal attacks, parents should take the child to a doctor.

“You have to find out whether a therapeutic treatment is recommendable,” says Fendel. – dpa

(theSun, Tuesday, October 9, 2007)


Pam Provonsha Hopkins said...

Parents might be ineterested in a book I just co-authored along with Jennifer Brown, MSW through called, "What Angry Kids Need: Parenting Your Angry Child Without Going Mad". It's for parents of kids birth through 12, and is very supportive and practical, covering such topics as how to build your child's capacity to be verbal with his feelings over time, to self-soothe, and problem-solve. Also there is help for parents on how to use time-outs positively, how to deal with a child who is physically out of control, and last, but not least, self-care for parents. The final chapter talks about how to tell when it's time to reach out for help from professionals.

steve said...

Right, excessive tantrums need to be dealt with therapeutic treatments as fiery tempers may be an indicator of mild nervous system disorders that can be properly treated with hompeopathic remedies such as the Cina and Chamomila or standardized herbal supplements that would help balance childhood emotions and temper frustrations.